The word "loving your self" can be unfamiliar to a lot of people. Most people don't like themselves - they feel they are not good enough and they keep blaming themselves for their failures. Even worse, most people are not happy with their lives, believing that they are a failure for not being able to afford the lives they want to have. It may stem from the very basic human nature - people like to complain, for whatever reason, there is always something to make them unhappy - the hard to explain insatiable needs. How can we deal effectively with this very nature? The easy antidote will be to love your life, or to love what you have. But how? Of course, it is easier said than done.
Loving your life means loving yourself, both terms go hand in hand and they can be synonymous. When you love yourself, you love your life and, as a result, you enjoy your life more. It is important that you feel positive about your life because feelings are infectious. When you are grumpy the people around you will get grumpy. When you are positive, you create a positive environment and you help people feel positive about their lives. In a positive environment, people support each other and you will get the best from life.
It is important to keep your feelings in check because negative environment can be dangerous. Again, feelings are infectious - your complaining nature may create a negative, if not hostile environment. Under such a circumstance, not only existing problems do not get solved, you add more problems to the already chaotic environment. You can never underestimate the multiplier effect, especially when it is negative, as it can create a downward spiral, a vicious circle. Once you are in a vicious circle, it can lead to a trap that will take a tremendous effort to get out. When we are talking about domino effect of negativity, we don't have to talk about being tied to addictions such as drugs, cigarettes or gambling. Those are extreme examples. We can talk about a simple example such as you were upset for being late to work, then you blamed the traffic and the government, then you told your co-worker about it, then your co-worker got upset because she couldn't focus on her work, then her boss got upset because the deadline was missed. Then the entire office got upset because the boss was mad to everybody. Then you came home upset, then your family got upset because you were upset, then you were so upset that you forgot to pay an overdue bill, then you got even more upset to pay the late fee, and so on, and so on. Something has to be done when you see the earliest sign of upsetting emotions to stop the spiraling effect.
Therefore, it is important that you learn to love yourself so that you can love your life. How? The first step can be to realize that your life is a gift from God and God knows best, way beyond human. There is a mystery in life, we simply must believe that God creates us for a purpose, a good purpose. And if anything, whatever we do, we do it for God. It means that to do your best in life is to show gratitude to God for the gift. On the other hand, to complain about life is to complain about God's policy. It is patronizing! It is like you think you are better than God and you start telling God what to do. When something doesn't go the way you think it should go, you might want to take a deeper look to see the hidden message sent by God. Challenges always provide us with something to learn.
There are many ways that you can do to start to love yourself. First, you can explore your dreams. Your life is at your disposal, you have every right to follow your heart and you have the privilege to choose what you believe are the best for you. Listening to your heart allows you to have a purpose in life and you can start by developing interests in whatever makes you happy. Then you can start building up your strengths to enable you to accomplish your dreams. Another way to help you love yourself is to give your love to others. You cannot love others if you don't love yourself first. Loving others creates a push for you to start learning to love yourself.
What if we feel upset anyway for life is full with upsetting incidents. Being upset is part of being human, and we want to acknowledge our humanity. Of course, feeling positive takes efforts and it takes a lot of self discipline. It is easy to get back to the old pattern of prone to being irritable. But, it is a matter of choice. If you want to have a good life, you may want to learn to overcome the negativity.
Love Yourself, Love Your Life
Mind Of Success
Worry, frustration, confusion, depression and fear are all states of mind that make you difficult to achieve and block success.
There is no success in a mind with negative state. Peace and calmness in your mind is needed to set your positive state of mind to attain your success.
Normally you will find it quite difficult to manage and control your mind. Your mind just runs and flies up and down, right and left, in and out anywhere anytime without knowing how you can make it tame.
In meditation, you can achieve a level called peaceful and calm mind that is free of negative state of mind, so you are able to experience happiness, encouraging and attracting positive behavior. A negative state of mind only attracts negative feelings and behavior therefore it is a great barrier to great achievement.
With a negative state of mind, you will seldom or never experience happiness or any positive results you desire. Constant meditation trains the mind to be tamer, more cheerful and peaceful. This is a state of mind that is very crucial to achieving success. You will act very differently with a positive state of mind rather than you do with a negative state of mind.
The mind is like a power or energy station, sending out energy or power that is represented by your thought. These are then received by the subconscious mind that will create and gather all the supportive situations or people or even opportunities to assist and guide you to achieve what your thoughts and goals are.
So if you want to achieve or accomplish your goals and you do not truly believe you will be able to, or if you, with your negative state of mind, constantly think about the reason why you can't or why it's hard, then you will send the power or energy that will create everything that will support your thought to make it hard to accomplish. Whatever you think about will come to you in return.
This is the reason why you must eliminate all your negative state of mind or negative thought, and you need to entertain your positive mind. Positive state of mind will attract positive things to support you in achieving positive results. Blacklist all your negative thoughts, fire them all and employ only positive thoughts.
Negative state of mind never helps you to achieve success, but positive state of mind does.
Your negative state of mind can't encourage or motivate you, but positive state of mind can.
Your negative state of mind will never attract the results you expect, but positive state of mind will.
And it is your decision to employ a negative or positive state of mind. The power to choose is in you.
The Success Formula
As you know that successful people are much less than those are unsuccessful. They are in minority zone. You perhaps wonder why there are only a small amount of people who are categorized as successful.
Perhaps you wonder why many people in this world are not successful. As a proverb says, where there is a result, there is a cause. Those who are successful must have done something that unsuccessful people do not do. There must be differences between them.
The successful people always take action to achieve their desire and goals because they know that without action, all their dreams will be just an imagination. They have big dreams. They will never let everyone block their quest to find success. They are big dreamers but they do not forget planning and taking action towards it.
They also sacrifice everything and pay the price of success, so they deserve the success. No matter how far their dreams seem to be, they just continue and keep going and also carrying on their action until they succeed. They do not stop on their way. Once they start or begin, they will finish it.
The majority (unsuccessful people) knows the price for success, but they are not ready to pay it. They are also afraid of taking action in accomplishing their dreams. They live in their imagination without being able to enjoy their right to be successful. They do not believe that they have the capacity to be successful, they do not believe in themselves.
There is a simple formula of success I am about to tell you, but this is so powerful if you apply it. Once again, action will make all your dreams come true. By taking action, you are ready to get out of your zone to walk in the outside zone to achieve your success. The formula is as simple as A-B-C-D-E.
A : Action
B : Believe
C : Consistent
D : Dreams
E : Enthusiasm
The order of the formula is first you must have DREAMS. Dreams guide you on the right track and make you focus on it. Without them, you will go nowhere, you do not know where you want to go, and you do not know where your last destination is. It is like a sailor do not have compass when sailing.
Then you must BELIEVE that you will achieve success. Without strong belief, you are not going to be in peak performance.
Then you must take ACTION. When you take action, miracles happen. Your dreams are getting nearer and you are getting nearer to them.
The next is you have to be CONSISTENT in your action, make a commitment not to stop until you achieve what you desire. Keep going and fetch your success that is waiting.
And the last is always having ENTHUSIASM in every action. It will make you enjoy while you are completing your journey to success.